Does life feel a little unsteady right now? If so, what area or areas feel the most unsteady? Personal. Professional. Relational. Or perhaps you need to go more granular: mental, emotional, physical, spiritual.
Feeling unsteady is to be expected when things don’t go as planned or we get hit with a sucker punch we didn’t see coming. And yet, how we experience this unsteadiness is unique to what we bring to the table.
Given the garden variety of emotions we carry, this work will require us to get honest about the elephant we are bringing into the room with us.
So what’s your elephant?
Truth is, we know when there’s an elephant in the room at a family gathering, a work meeting, or among friends. We can feel it. We can sense something is off. But naming the personal elephant taking up enormous space in our thoughts is another matter altogether.
Sometimes it feels too big. Too scary. Too uncertain.
Yet, naming your elephant gives you the opportunity to understand yourself better and reset expectations the next time you experience crisis or even the stress of every day life.
My elephant will look different from yours due to previous trauma and experiences. So to help us name the elephant weighing heavy on our chest let’s ask two questions:
- What is causing me to feel unsteady (relationships, work, or some aspect of life)?
- What do I need in order to regain a feeling of steadiness or safety in this area?
Awareness is the first step. Identifying the cause of distress and what we need to navigate it in a healthier way provides an opportunity to build a guardrail that creates more safety so we can feel little more steady on our emotional feet when our elephant walks into the room.
Let me encourage you to take some time to walk with your elephant this week. Get to know it. Give it a name and try to understand why it’s there. Listen to it and learn from it. What is it teaching you about where you were wounded and what you need?
Once you have a better understanding then take it to God. Ask Him for help and healing in this area.
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?“ (Matthew 7:3)
- Where are you feeling unsteady?
- Can you name your elephant and why it is taking up so much space in your life right now?
- How can you use these insights to steady your next steps forward?
Prayer is just a conversation with God. Talk to Him about what you learned and what you need from Him today.
Be bold. Be brave. Be free.
Dori
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